My man loves when it’s ‘that time of the month’

May 30, 2023

Dear Pastor,

I have a problem. I want you to judge a matter between my husband and I. We are a young couple. We just got married two months ago, but we are having fights.

They are not physical fights, but we fight over the frequency of sex. My husband is never satisfied. He wants us to do it even when I am seeing my period. I made a mistake when I told husband that when I am seeing my menses, I feel very very horny. I did not know that he would turn around and use it against me.

You see, Pastor, I am a nurse and I have taught my husband lots of things, and he has taught me many things, also. My husband is a darling of a man, and I have never been a 'play around' girl. I do not become ill like some women during my period. So my husband says that while we can manage to have sex, we should and only protect the sheets and the mattress. But sometimes my flow is heavy, and that seems to even turn him on more.

To make matters worse, I asked my doctor whether it was safe for me to have intercourse during my menses and the doctor, who is our friend, told us yes, it is safe to have intercourse during menstruation. That makes matters worse. The doctor told me that I am fortunate to have a man who does not scorn me during my menses. So I told my husband that I was going to write to you to find out how you felt about a couple having sex during the woman's menstruation.


Dear L.T.,

You were honest enough to tell your man how you feel during your menstruation. Your letter tells me that your husband and you communicate very well.

So I congratulate both of you for communicating well. You told your husband the truth, because many women have admitted the same thing. They become very horny during their menstruation. But what you did not expect is that just by telling him about yourself would turn him on every month during that time. But although you told your husband that, you would expect him to be considerate and not overdo anything.

You know, some people consider having sex during this period as nasty. I am not saying that is the right attitude to take, but what I do want to say is that some men go to the extreme by refusing to have their women do anything for them in the kitchen. They will neither eat nor drink from the woman. But what your doctor said is the truth.

I would say to both of you, learn to adjust to the situation, and especially when the flow is heavy, back off from sexual intercourse. The Bible says that a man should not approach his woman to have sex with her during menstruation. "You must not approach a woman in her menstrual impurity to have sexual intercourse with her," according to Leviticus 18:19.


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